I have been thinking about congruence and strength. The people I know who are strong are also congruent and well respected. I talked to my guide, Taysha about living the most congruent life I can. Her words follow:
“Eliminating need or reasons to lie are rays of light from an aligned soul. Alignment with the soul’s purposes offers fortitude and deliverance giving a focused and determined path motivation to serve the most righteous of goals. All of which represent reference points to one’s possibilities. Clarity is given- not sought. Possibilities are realistic, not that of unattainable dreams. Truth and purpose must be linked or confusion and falsities become abundant. ”
We all lie. We’re born learning that the differences between truth and falsities are something we experience as a way to find truth. A child lying about a missing toy is not committing sin punishable by the fires of hell. Duality is our opportunity to find congruence and individual truths. Often, we say we’re caring for others by withholding our truth or protecting them from it. When, in fact, we’re denying not only our own opportunities for strength, but we’re concealing our comfort and our truths because we hold ourselves responsible for the perceptions of others. I’m feeling that old feeling of heavy weight on my shoulders just writing about it.
After much contemplation and some adjustments about how I share my truth, I found myself lying so much less. Not that I’m anymore of a liar than anyone else, but I don’t excuse my feelings, actions, perceptions, and beliefs ‘for’ someone else’s comfort.
I frequently preface my truth when talking to people who are sensitive, however. For example, I have a friend who treats her son like he’s an oblivious imbecile when he can’t read her mind. (Why doesn’t she do it everyone?)So when she asked if I wanted to come over to visit I declined stating that I didn’t intend to hurt her feelings or piss her off, but I don’t want to be around someone who strikes out at child when she’s frustrated because she can.
I used to say,” No thanks’” – and leave it at that, but it was important for me to tell her how her actions have far reaching consequences.
My friend did choose to internalize my words for a while, but after a few weeks she actually thanked me for bringing to her attention the cruelty she had inflicted on to her child.
Truth and living in cooperation with your own comfort and path is a less heavy and stressful life. I’m finding myself worrying less and sleeping more. I speak my truth with compassion and respect for myself and others, and it’s giving me back my life the way it was intended to be- harmonious and peaceful.
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